Where's Your Power? Go There.
During a brief but wonderful interaction with a client yesterday, the conversation turned to my favorite of Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements - "Always do your best".
This client is moving through a particularly challenging time in her life, and is working hard to break old habits and challenge old beliefs that she recognizes as self-limiting and untrue. Around her finances, such beliefs include that she's not good with money, and that spending is bad, period.
She described a nebulous feeling that she's done something wrong in her handling of money through this transition, while simultaneously knowing that she's done the best she could. Exploring the differences between that feeling, born of old conditioning, and the knowledge, born of maturity and hard work, she observed that while inhabiting the feeling "there's no where to go from there". Where as, while inhabiting the knowledge that yes, she has done, and is doing the best she can, she feels her power.
I did my best to support her, and encourage her to find ways to support herself, in inhabiting that place of power as much as she can manage. As Ruiz says in his book The Four Agreements, the fourth - Always Do Your Best, is the most important because our best changes based on a number of factors such as our health, stress, fatigue, hunger. As long as you know you've done your best, you can relax. There's nothing else to do, you've done all you can.
Hearing my client recognize the power that comes from knowing this was a revelation. I had never looked at it quite that way. It made me think of all the ways I limit my own power by failing to acknowledge what this young woman so keenly observed.
Doing our best, then acknowledging that we have, is a gift to ourselves. It's not about excuses, or making ourselves feel better. It's about feeling our power, about being free to focus on the next step by liberating ourselves from the past and trusting ourselves in the present.
My wish for you today is that you notice where your power resides, how you can access it, and how it eludes you. And that you give yourself the gift of choosing to be in that place where your power lives as much as you can.
Continually ask yourself what you need to support you in making that choice, and then come through, for you. Just like you do for all the other people in your life who rely on you.
Let's always remember to treat ourselves with the same love and kindness that we endeavor to treat others.
I think I'll start with a nap. How about you?